Adesua Etomi Reveals Why She Friend Zoned Husband for 18 Months

Popular Nigerian entertainer and politician, Bankole Wellington, widely known as Banky W, has provided a rare glimpse into the persistent pursuit and spiritual journey that preceded his marriage to star actress, Adesua Etomi-Wellington.

Speaking during a candid interview with comedian and broadcaster Teju Babyface, the “Wedding Party” star recounted the emotional hurdles he faced during the early stages of their relationship. Banky W admitted that despite his personal conviction that Adesua was his soulmate, he faced repeated rejections from the actress. The singer-turned-cleric revealed that the emotional toll of these setbacks eventually led him to a point of surrender, where he decided to stop pursuing her humanly and instead turned to prayer.

Banky W shared that he reached a definitive turning point where he vowed to God that he would no longer bring up the prospect of marriage to her, insisting that if the union was meant to be, the realization would have to come from Adesua herself. He jokingly reflected on the irony of the situation, wondering if the heartbreak he was experiencing was a form of divine recompense for his own past relationships.

The breakthrough reportedly came after a year and a half of waiting, when Adesua finally contacted him to confirm she had received her own spiritual conviction. According to Banky, she called him and asked if he was aware that he was her husband, to which he calmly responded that he had been waiting for her to reach that same conclusion.

Adesua, contributing to the conversation, noted the irony of her marital reality. She confessed that she had specifically prayed against marrying a musician, a pastor, or a politician, yet found herself married to a man who eventually embodied all three roles. She emphasized the enduring intimacy of their relationship, noting that even as they approach their tenth year of marriage, they maintain the same affectionate habits they had in their early days.

The couple also touched on the resilience required to maintain their bond in the public eye. Despite navigating the heartbreak of a miscarriage and weathering intense social media rumors regarding infidelity in 2023, they maintained that their connection remains unbreakable. Having welcomed their first son in 2021 and a second in 2024, Adesua expressed her hope for another five decades of companionship, reaffirming that their marriage has defied the skeptical predictions of critics who once claimed the union would not last six months.